So I've pondered this very question so many times - the debate inside my head is pretty simplistic actually. If I begin to write, will I be able to stop and start - so many times when the thoughts are flowing, it's hard to put down the keyboard or close the notebook until there is more time. But even more of a question - if I write and I face failure, I'd never try again. Failure is not one of my strong points. I anxiously await it and when it happens, I'm deflated to the lowest level possible.
So the question still lies - do I commit to begin on this journey, keep pondering the thought or say - not going to happen.
2010-09-11
2010-08-23
Motivation vs. Contented
Have you ever wondered how some people can go to work, do the same thing day in and day out and go home feeling content with the job that they did? Do you find it hard to understand how this group of people feel like their daily contributions are enough? So often I struggle to understand these people, the one's who are considered followers, the people who choose not to step up and take the lead, who choose not to take the initiative.
So the true question is - are these people lacking motivation or are they truly content with the role they play within an organization? Is it the way they were raised that has caused this "laziness" as most of us would describe it? Do they choose to sit on the sidelines because of their social abilities or maybe they lack the confidence needed to stand up and voice their opinions? Whatever the case may be, it is said that every organization needs these people in order to function. Without these individuals, an organization would be set for failure.
Take a look around you - if all of the individuals in your group, team or department were leaders, how much "work" would get done in a day? Too many leaders can make for a lack in getting things done. Always be sure to thank these people - recognize their efforts. They may not shine like a leader, but they contribute just as much, if not more to the company and at the end of the day, they are just doing their job like everyone else. Praise them! Thank them! and most importantly - make them feel needed!
So the true question is - are these people lacking motivation or are they truly content with the role they play within an organization? Is it the way they were raised that has caused this "laziness" as most of us would describe it? Do they choose to sit on the sidelines because of their social abilities or maybe they lack the confidence needed to stand up and voice their opinions? Whatever the case may be, it is said that every organization needs these people in order to function. Without these individuals, an organization would be set for failure.
Take a look around you - if all of the individuals in your group, team or department were leaders, how much "work" would get done in a day? Too many leaders can make for a lack in getting things done. Always be sure to thank these people - recognize their efforts. They may not shine like a leader, but they contribute just as much, if not more to the company and at the end of the day, they are just doing their job like everyone else. Praise them! Thank them! and most importantly - make them feel needed!
2010-08-22
~ Defiance ~
Defiance (n.) a challenging attitude or behavior
Do you remember your first encounter with defiance as an adult? Do you remember the first time that you were defiant as an adult? Did you hold more guilt than you did as a child not listening when your parent had already told you "no"? Every human has witnessed or shown defiance at some point in their life. Although, some actions are much greater than others, the lasting wound can be just as great. Is it healthy to be defiant? Are there any benefits for you or the person whom is on the receiving end? This all depends on the level - as mentioned, the wound can be just as great - but is this a form of confrontation or just challenging someone's opinion? Some of the greatest minds to ever live became known because they challenged someone else's reason. If they had not been 'defiant', their name would not have the same ring when heard around the world. Tom Sawyer, Albert Einstein, DaVinci. Go ahead and challenge policy from time to time. Go ahead and question someone's decision. It may just be the best thing you've ever done for yourself. Sitting back and accepting something that you do not completely agree with won't get you any further than you are today. So let me pose the question again - Is it healthy to be defiant?
Do you remember your first encounter with defiance as an adult? Do you remember the first time that you were defiant as an adult? Did you hold more guilt than you did as a child not listening when your parent had already told you "no"? Every human has witnessed or shown defiance at some point in their life. Although, some actions are much greater than others, the lasting wound can be just as great. Is it healthy to be defiant? Are there any benefits for you or the person whom is on the receiving end? This all depends on the level - as mentioned, the wound can be just as great - but is this a form of confrontation or just challenging someone's opinion? Some of the greatest minds to ever live became known because they challenged someone else's reason. If they had not been 'defiant', their name would not have the same ring when heard around the world. Tom Sawyer, Albert Einstein, DaVinci. Go ahead and challenge policy from time to time. Go ahead and question someone's decision. It may just be the best thing you've ever done for yourself. Sitting back and accepting something that you do not completely agree with won't get you any further than you are today. So let me pose the question again - Is it healthy to be defiant?
2010-08-20
Expectations or Standards?
What is it about societies' expectation of us that we take so seriously? Everyone has an image of who they are - some false, some real. What is your image of yourself? Is it truly where you expected to be? Is this the person you truly wanted to be? Also, take a look around and consider the people who matter most to you. Do they accept you for who you are and who you will be in the future? If you find yourself changing your personality for the sake of your company, you may be in the wrong company. Even a greater issue, you're altering yourself not for yourself but for someone else. Always be true to yourself and your needs. If you find that you are always seeking that someone to understand you - don't give up and change for those you've already found. Continue to search - that person is out there somewhere. There is someone in this world who will understand you for you and not for who they want you to be or expect you to be.
2010-08-18
Pillars of Strength
We as humans can't always be the rock, we can't always be the pillar of strength. Everyone at some point wants to be the dependent - the one who needs to be told, the one who needs to be directed. We all need to be supported and want to know that someone supports us. What we can't handle is everyone else always being the one in need or always being the one who needs the attention, the pat on the back, the well done statement. At some point in life, these people may need to tread water alone, they may need to walk the road alone. If we continue to hinder them, they will never learn how to do these things without a hand held out for them to grab onto.
Your challenge - don't be someone's crutch. Do not allow yourself to be that pillar at all hours of the day. Make those who depend on you grow their own pillar, develop their solidity in life. What you must do is continue to focus on yourself and your foundation. How are you ensuring that you're not THAT person! Keep a focus on your driving force and your needs. And at no time, feel like someone should be there to catch you when you fall. If you fall, the only person that can truly pick you back up is yourself.
Your challenge - don't be someone's crutch. Do not allow yourself to be that pillar at all hours of the day. Make those who depend on you grow their own pillar, develop their solidity in life. What you must do is continue to focus on yourself and your foundation. How are you ensuring that you're not THAT person! Keep a focus on your driving force and your needs. And at no time, feel like someone should be there to catch you when you fall. If you fall, the only person that can truly pick you back up is yourself.
2010-08-17
Is It The Right Path for You?
Have you ever known what it's like to know that you can succeed at something, but you don't have the confidence internally to make it a reality?
When you know deep down that you have the traits, the personality and the brains to make it almost anywhere you want to go in life - possessing all of the tools that can help you get where you've never dreamt you could be! However, there will always be those obstacles that hinder us from taking the steps forward. It could be someone who is near to you, telling you that you can't further yourself or it could be an external force - location or status. Whatever it is - you will have to determine if this is something that you yourself can overcome. When you grow older and look back on your life, will you say "How I wish I would have taken the chance - How I wish I wouldn't have made the excuses that I did" or will you say "I truly enjoyed the life that I lived, I truly took the right path."
Somehow you have to drum up inner confidence in order to take steps in the right direction. There may have been times when someone scolded you for thinking irrationally (in their eyes) or told you that you would "never" be more than anyone else. You can't let these words or people stop you from exploring your true potential. Because if you let someone else quell your thirst for success - you will be stagnant for the rest of your life. You'll never get the opportunity that is or could be right in front of your eyes!
How do you drum up this inner confidence? For everyone, it may be different.
Do you need to remind yourself that you are good at what you do and that you can leap forward into more intriguing waters? Start reminding! Set goals for yourself, make it a challenge to see where you can be a year from now, five years from now and don't ever think that the bar will be too high. There is no bar in life - the sky is the limit.
Do you need someone else to give you the reassurance that you're going to make it - that you can make it - that you will make it! If this is the case - find that person. The one that is always encouraging. The one who makes you see more than you ever could yourself. Spend time with them, ask them for opinion and most of all - thank them for supporting you and your decisions.
Don't forget to seek understanding. Understand what is hampering your desires, your needs - and then prevail! Challenge these fears, face them without inhibition, and never settle - thinking that you can't go beyond your current position. You can go anywhere and be anything - and whatever it is that you choose to be - make the most of it. So when you are older, you can look back and say, "That was one hell of a life that I lived!"
When you know deep down that you have the traits, the personality and the brains to make it almost anywhere you want to go in life - possessing all of the tools that can help you get where you've never dreamt you could be! However, there will always be those obstacles that hinder us from taking the steps forward. It could be someone who is near to you, telling you that you can't further yourself or it could be an external force - location or status. Whatever it is - you will have to determine if this is something that you yourself can overcome. When you grow older and look back on your life, will you say "How I wish I would have taken the chance - How I wish I wouldn't have made the excuses that I did" or will you say "I truly enjoyed the life that I lived, I truly took the right path."
Somehow you have to drum up inner confidence in order to take steps in the right direction. There may have been times when someone scolded you for thinking irrationally (in their eyes) or told you that you would "never" be more than anyone else. You can't let these words or people stop you from exploring your true potential. Because if you let someone else quell your thirst for success - you will be stagnant for the rest of your life. You'll never get the opportunity that is or could be right in front of your eyes!
How do you drum up this inner confidence? For everyone, it may be different.
Do you need to remind yourself that you are good at what you do and that you can leap forward into more intriguing waters? Start reminding! Set goals for yourself, make it a challenge to see where you can be a year from now, five years from now and don't ever think that the bar will be too high. There is no bar in life - the sky is the limit.
Do you need someone else to give you the reassurance that you're going to make it - that you can make it - that you will make it! If this is the case - find that person. The one that is always encouraging. The one who makes you see more than you ever could yourself. Spend time with them, ask them for opinion and most of all - thank them for supporting you and your decisions.
Don't forget to seek understanding. Understand what is hampering your desires, your needs - and then prevail! Challenge these fears, face them without inhibition, and never settle - thinking that you can't go beyond your current position. You can go anywhere and be anything - and whatever it is that you choose to be - make the most of it. So when you are older, you can look back and say, "That was one hell of a life that I lived!"
2010-08-16
~ aDeQuAcY vs. WoRtHy ~
When is it OK to feel less than worthy? Less than adequate? There will be times in your life when you feel like you just don't belong or your self worth just doesn't add up. Is it an OK place to be? Of course it is. So long as you know how to get yourself back to a worthy state sooner than later.
These feelings can actually encourage you to strive for a better understanding of where you truly want to be. Knowing that you're not where you ought to be can only drive you toward reaching for a higher standard. It may also open the doors to something beyond what you had originally imagined for your destination.
If you don't feel like you belong in your current state - examine why. Consider all of the elements in your current life and make decisions - what is and what isn't acceptable, what do you desire to change? Change can be the catalyst that you need to recover from where you are now. You, and only you, must make the effort, no one can do it for you. Take charge of the change process, drive it through and come out of this present state with a better outlook on the near future and possibly years to follow.
Whatever you do, do not settle for less than you desire. You are allowed breaks along the way, if necessary, but don't get comfortable. Comfort only causes a person to remain - it will not cause you to seek further peace with your being, it will not cause you to yearn for more. Comfort can and will push you back toward the creator of discomfort - returning back to a state of inadequacy. You need to continue forging ahead, pressing into the unknown, delve into the existence that you really crave.
These feelings can actually encourage you to strive for a better understanding of where you truly want to be. Knowing that you're not where you ought to be can only drive you toward reaching for a higher standard. It may also open the doors to something beyond what you had originally imagined for your destination.
If you don't feel like you belong in your current state - examine why. Consider all of the elements in your current life and make decisions - what is and what isn't acceptable, what do you desire to change? Change can be the catalyst that you need to recover from where you are now. You, and only you, must make the effort, no one can do it for you. Take charge of the change process, drive it through and come out of this present state with a better outlook on the near future and possibly years to follow.
Whatever you do, do not settle for less than you desire. You are allowed breaks along the way, if necessary, but don't get comfortable. Comfort only causes a person to remain - it will not cause you to seek further peace with your being, it will not cause you to yearn for more. Comfort can and will push you back toward the creator of discomfort - returning back to a state of inadequacy. You need to continue forging ahead, pressing into the unknown, delve into the existence that you really crave.
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